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Guest Blogger Suzie Wilson: What You Should Know About Grief, Loss, and Sleep

If you’ve lost someone you love, you know that grief can come crashing in like waves. You feel normal one minute and then completely lost the next. Grief is such a complicated process that can take time to fully process. However, if your grief is causing you to miss out on all-important sleep, it’s time to start asking yourself some serious questions.


Is It Time for a Change in Your Bedroom?

Losing a loved one can make it feel as though time is standing still, especially when you lose a spouse. Immediately after your loss, you may not feel up to making any big changes around your home. But in time, think about whether altering your bedroom could help you get more restful sleep. You can start with small touches such as adding quality sleep gear to help improve your bedtime routines. New smart sleep technology, like the FitSleep or Nox Smart Sleep Light, use lights and sounds to help you fall asleep faster. A white-noise machine can also be helpful (you can find one for under $20).

When you are ready for a bigger change, you can also add more relaxing colors to your bedroom walls. Calming earth tones like blue, gray, and brown can help relax your senses when you are in your room and help you get more restful sleep as you work through the grieving process. Try to avoid any bright colors or limit any vibrant shades to an accent wall or trim.

 

Are You Taking Time for Real Self-Care?

 Mourning the death of someone you loved and lived with can make even mundane tasks seem like a lot of effort. Self-care tends to fall to the wayside when you are experiencing immense grief, but if you are not sleeping, that lack of self-care could be an issue. For one, regular exercise, as difficult as it may be right now, is absolutely critical in maintaining healthy sleep habits. This is especially true for times when stress is the source of your sleeplessness. Exercise helps reduce feelings of anxiety and stress, in addition to burning any excess energy that is making it difficult to relax. So, try to get a brisk morning workout in a few times a week, or find another physical activity that helps take some of that stress and worry away.

You can also hire help around the house to give you some relief, such as lawn-mowing or cleaning services. If you’re going to hire anyone, make sure you can manage the expense. For example, the average cost of hiring a lawn-mowing service is $49 – $219.

Finding other ways to relieve stress and worry, like journaling, can also help you improve your sleep quality. Finally, pay special attention to what you eat. Comfort foods such as pizza, ice cream, and chocolate can soothe your emotions but when you eat certain foods before bed, you could actually be disrupting your sleep quality.

 

Has Your Grief Reached Unhealthy Limits?

 When you have tried changing your bedroom and you still cannot get enough sleep, it may be time for more help. While everyone experiences grief in their own way, some people may find themselves slipping quickly from normal stages of grief to complicated grief. This intense form of mourning can mimic depressive disorders, but it’s important to note that these conditions are quite different. You still need to seek medical care in order to process complicated grief, but chances are you will be able to recover at some point.

To help make your grieving process a bit easier, try to avoid activities that affect your sleep and can lead to unhealthy habits. For instance, having a drink or glass of wine before bed may seem relaxing, but alcohol actually prevents restful sleep and can develop into an addiction when used as an emotional crutch over extended periods of time.

 The truth is that you may never fully heal from your grief, but that’s okay. We can mourn the ones we’ve deeply loved and lost for a lifetime, in our own way, so long as we learn to live our lives outside of grief. That means practicing self-care, getting enough sleep, and gathering enough strength to pick up those scattered pieces and carry on with our lives again.

 

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Posted by on September 12, 2019 in Health

 

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Remember 18 Years Ago Today

 
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Posted by on September 11, 2019 in Uncategorized

 

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I Wish I Could Be Lazy

Its a new month. We are entering a new season. The laziness of summer is over. Actually I’m never lazy. My summer was jammed packed. I should be a bit more lazy. I wish I could be a lazy. I’ve had to learn to work less and take more time for me. SELF care!

This labor day weekend has been a mix of labor and non labor. On Saturday, I worked all morning, took the whole afternoon off and spent it with family and then went back to work in the evening. It worked for me . As I wake up on Sunday, I don’t feel overworked or tired and I got stuff done AND relaxed!

I am a Professional Organizer and it has come in handy for MY life. I have systems in place that allow me to do all the things I do for work and creative AND be able to just be in my garden for hours. I invite everyone to find ways to make their lives run smoother. I don’t believe in true balance but I do believe in balancing.

It may take some time to organize your time and find your groove. There is no one size fits all. You have to find what’s best for you! This month I will blog about different ways to find your way to time managing YOUR life!

 
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Posted by on September 2, 2019 in Organizing

 

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Guest Blogger Suzie Wilson: Downsizing Tips For Seniors

Friends, Elderly, Old, Man, Woman, Couple

While it is not inevitable, many seniors will downsize their living situations as they enter their 60s, 70s, and beyond. For these individuals, the options are usually either to buy a new, smaller home or to move into an assisted living center. If you find yourself facing this decision, you may be intimidated by the process. The good news is that it does not have to be overwhelming, and the following advice can help you along the way.

Which Is Best: Assisted Living or Aging in Place?

If you know that a move is necessary but have yet to decide where the next chapter of your life will take you, you will first need to consider your health. If you have trouble with activities of daily living (bathing, toileting, dressing, etc.), then an assisted living facility may be your best bet. While each facility is different, most provide basic assistance for seniors with a mind for independence. In the Los Angeles area, you can expect to spend anywhere from $1,500 to $17,860 per month depending on the level of care and amenities.

When you do not yet need assistance but realize that you are not as capable of cleaning a large home, ascending stairs, and navigating narrow hallways, downsizing to a smaller house is a sensible option. Talk to your realtor about finding a home that incorporates elements of universal design. Universal design means the home is laid out in a way that accommodates people of all shapes, sizes, and abilities. Look for features such as a stepless entry and a single-story floor plan. Cost-wise, buying a smaller home may be more of an initial upfront investment compared to assisted living, and you will be responsible for your mortgage, utilities, food, transportation, and other personal expenses. However, this allows for the most independence.

 

Prepping for a Big Move to a Small Space

Now that you’ve made your decision, you’re going to need to start handpicking furniture and other personal items that will make the transition with you. If you’re moving into a single-family home, space will be your only real constraint. However, instead of just throwing things to the curb, put no-longer-needed furniture and household goods to good use by donating them to a local charity. Updater.com explains that this comes prepackaged with both tax benefits and the knowledge that you’ve kept unnecessary items out of the landfill.

Moving into an assisted living apartment may require you to pick and choose more carefully. There are many items that are frowned upon or downright prohibited in a senior living community. Call your community representative if you are unsure of their policies.

 

Navigating the Emotions

There is no way around the fact that moving, for whatever reason, is an emotional experience. It is also one that is deeply personal. If possible, give yourself plenty of time to pack and say goodbye to your home, neighbors, and community. Remind yourself that you are moving with a purpose. This might be for more opportunities to socialize or to move into a home without stairs to minimize your risk of falling. When your upcoming move comes on the heels of losing a spouse or longtime partner, the process may be even more emotionally challenging. Don’t be afraid to talk to your family and friends if you need a listening ear.

It’s time to enjoy your retirement. But remember, know what you can — and can’t — take with you, and be prepared for an emotional experience. The journey may not always be pleasant, but the end result will be a safer and more comfortable you.

 

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Posted by on August 4, 2019 in Uncategorized

 

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The Myth of Using THAT Box Later

DON’T save the box that your appliances and electronics come in!

YOU will NOT use it later!

You will not pack it back up in the box when you move 100 years later.

It will not bring more value to your items if you decide to sell it later. (Unboxed, new looking items do that.)

Chances are the appliance will ware out and then you won’t need the box.

You can cut off any important info ON the box and put in a file or ziplock bag labelled what it’s for.

Keeping the boxes takes up valuable real estate for something else or for space!

I will make only ONE exception- IF you have the room, break down the box so that you can slide it somewhere to store it. WHen you breakdown the box, less space is used. BUT that’s only if you have the space. If not then this becomes a problem too. I still think you won’t use it!

 

 
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Posted by on July 13, 2019 in Organizing

 

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Tool Box Tuesday: Ricardo’s Organized At Work!

My brother in law Ricardo has been in the mechanic business for over 30 years. He has worked for many companies and car dealerships and is a master at what he does.

I have featured a part of his work space a few years ago. He explained to me that being a mechanic is not too dissimiliar to being a surgeon. You need lots of tools and you need to be able to find and grab them at a moments notice.

 

He is very organized and I stoped by his shop and tooks lotts of pictures of his new Mac Tools Tool Box! I was very impressed and wanted to share with all of you! Enjoy! 

 
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Posted by on July 9, 2019 in Uncategorized

 

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Sort Out Saturday: REALLY Try This!!!

I am inviting each and every one of you reading this blog post to do this one thing!

Go to your closet and pick two things you haven’t worn in over 6 months and wear them the next day! 

Of course make sure they are weather appropriate lol I’m not saying wear a winter coat in hot summer.

Just do that!!

If you are bold, do that everyday this week…..

 

Lets rotate those clothes and use them. Also it lets you know what you have in your closet!

 

 

 
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Posted by on June 29, 2019 in Organizing

 

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