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Guest Blogger DIYMama Erin Reynolds: Moving in Together? Here’s How to Make Your House a Home

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You’ve probably heard the saying, “Home is where the heart is,” and it’s true. But, if you and your significant other are taking the next step and moving in together, it will take some work to make your house a home. Two personalities, styles, and preferences are coming together—and the two of you have to find a way to make them mesh that doesn’t involve dividing the house down the middle. The following are just a few tips to get your home organized, decorated, and settled so you can enjoy this new chapter.

Purging is a Must

 

No one likes to get rid of their things, but trying to fit two people’s worth of stuff in a home can be overwhelming, at best. A pre-move purge is a must for both of you. First, start by going through each room and separating items into keep, donate, sell, and trash piles. Once you’ve narrowed down your things, the two of you can come together and decide on duplicates, such as whose cookware, appliances, bedding, and furniture you’ll keep. You don’t need six frying pans and two mismatched couches. These decisions can be difficult, so if there are a few items you can’t agree on, put them in storage until you figure out what to do with them. The overall average price of a self-storage unit booked in Los Angeles, California over the past 180 days is $144.76. This is also a great place to keep items until you figure out the layout, as well as anything you don’t have room for now, but could see a future use for.

Keep Organization at the Forefront

 

Remember, a cluttered home isn’t cozy—it’s chaotic. This should be your mantra when it comes to home décor. Be sure to measure everything. By taking measurements before you bring items in, you might find your significant other’s loveseat is a way better fit than your bulky recliner. Make a conscious effort to use every inch of space wisely, as organization is an area couples tend to disagree on. For example, kitchen counters that serve as a drop zone could be your breaking point, while your significant other can’t stand a cluttered bathroom vanity. Make rules, but be willing to communicate and compromise. It may be helpful to look for versatile items that can serve multiple purposes. For example, if you insist on having piles of throw pillows and blankets accessible, but your partner thinks they are excessive and should be out of sight, meet halfway: For only about $100 you could get an ottoman that comes with built-in storage—a neat yet convenient place for those comfort items.

Don’t Overdo It When Mixing Styles

 

Designing and decorating a new home can be stressful. You could hire a professional interior decorator, though the average hourly rate can be as much as $500, according to Houzz. If you’re on a tight budget, though, don’t worry. There’s plenty of accessible (and free) advice online about designing and decorating a new home.

 

The two of you likely have completely different styles, which is why interior designer Sara Costello recommends painting walls a non-color such as white or cream. “With those non-color colors, you can weave in a palette that is masculine and feminine,” Costello said. Then, add pops of color via wall art, accent pillows, and various decorative items. If you have your own décor you are bringing in, incorporate it slowly, and make sure you both agree on it. Taking over the space can quickly lead to an argument. If you will be shopping for new furniture pieces, décor, or even something as simple as new bath towels, be sure you make purchases together so that one individual’s style doesn’t shine through more than the other.

 

Above all else, be kind and understanding toward one another. This is a huge change for both of you, and there will likely be arguments and disagreements. But at the end of the day, you are in it together. Take your time, go slow, talk often, and enjoy the ride!

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Posted by on October 25, 2018 in Organizing

 

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The Right Time To Talk To Your Messy Partner

The house is a mess! Or the home office is a disaster. Maybe its the trunk of the car is so full you can’t even put a bag of groceries in it. You want to talk to you significent other about it. They are the cause of most or all of the mess. When is the right time?????

I get THAT question many times! Here is MY answer:

First you have to admit to yourself that you are just as cupable as your partner. The clutter and disarray happened while you were there. But my larger point is that nothing happens in a vaccum and you have to work as a team to make it better, so lets even the playing field a bit. If you go into this with the “its all his fault” mentality, nothing will happen except a fight!

Second you want to go in with the mindset that you will work TOGETHER to fix this. Make this a team effort. Come from a place of “lets figure out how to do this better or more efficient AND organized” Get over the its their problem they need to change. In reality it’s YOUR problem too, because its affecting you.

Third is to be as loving as possible. Come from a place of care and consideration. Habits are hard to break. And remember you want harmony and peace. The goal is for you to return to being happy and functional. Help your partner get there in a positive way!

 
 

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Is His/Her Stuff Getting On Your Nerves??!!

It can be difficult to meld together into one household. It doesnt matter the relationship: roommates, lovers, spouses, siblings, you get the point. People living together is an ongoing life of compromise and negotiation.Even in the easiest of partnerships you still have to contend with all of the “stuff” you have and how it’s going to fit in your living space.

An all too familiar situation is after living together for awhile and each others habits REALLY set in. Maybe it hits you hard that he is a complusive buyer. You find out she will not budge on the bedroom closet space.The key is to come together for a common goal. The goal should be harmony in the household and fair space for everyone. That doesnt come easy and it I can’t fit all the advice in this one blog, but I will be giving tips over the next few months!

The first tip that I will leave with you today is the practice of accepting others for how they are! ACCEPTING others for how they are especially in the way that they live. You ha you cve a right to NOT accept and that may mean you shouldnt live together. The real deal is everyone is different in how they live BUT certain combos of people CAN work in a living space! But it all comes down to: can you accept the person for who they are? I believe that once you do that, then you can honestly assess your living arrangement and THEN assess the “stuff” in the house.

You want to be able to find solutions through love and kindness and openness of everyone involved! 

 
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Posted by on July 21, 2016 in Organizing

 

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