Whether it’s your husband or sister or kids or housemate, establish this one household rule: If you make a mess, then you clean it up! If you can get everyone to agree to that, then that’s the first step. The second step is sticking to it! Don’t get mad and clean it up for them then yell at them for it. It sets a pattern that will be learned. “It doesn’t matter if I make a mess, she’ll clean it up anyway. Yeah, she’ll be mad for a minute but…” Then you end up doing all the work. Make everyone responsible for their own stuff. Thirdly, everyone has to agree to clean up their mess NOW not LATER. Remember it’s ALL in the delivery. Ask and remind them that they agreed to this rule and hold them to it. No one had to be nasty or yell, simply stick to the facts of the rule..If you make a mess, then you clean it up!