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Guest Blogger DIYMama Erin Reynolds: Moving in Together? Here’s How to Make Your House a Home

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You’ve probably heard the saying, “Home is where the heart is,” and it’s true. But, if you and your significant other are taking the next step and moving in together, it will take some work to make your house a home. Two personalities, styles, and preferences are coming together—and the two of you have to find a way to make them mesh that doesn’t involve dividing the house down the middle. The following are just a few tips to get your home organized, decorated, and settled so you can enjoy this new chapter.

Purging is a Must

 

No one likes to get rid of their things, but trying to fit two people’s worth of stuff in a home can be overwhelming, at best. A pre-move purge is a must for both of you. First, start by going through each room and separating items into keep, donate, sell, and trash piles. Once you’ve narrowed down your things, the two of you can come together and decide on duplicates, such as whose cookware, appliances, bedding, and furniture you’ll keep. You don’t need six frying pans and two mismatched couches. These decisions can be difficult, so if there are a few items you can’t agree on, put them in storage until you figure out what to do with them. The overall average price of a self-storage unit booked in Los Angeles, California over the past 180 days is $144.76. This is also a great place to keep items until you figure out the layout, as well as anything you don’t have room for now, but could see a future use for.

Keep Organization at the Forefront

 

Remember, a cluttered home isn’t cozy—it’s chaotic. This should be your mantra when it comes to home décor. Be sure to measure everything. By taking measurements before you bring items in, you might find your significant other’s loveseat is a way better fit than your bulky recliner. Make a conscious effort to use every inch of space wisely, as organization is an area couples tend to disagree on. For example, kitchen counters that serve as a drop zone could be your breaking point, while your significant other can’t stand a cluttered bathroom vanity. Make rules, but be willing to communicate and compromise. It may be helpful to look for versatile items that can serve multiple purposes. For example, if you insist on having piles of throw pillows and blankets accessible, but your partner thinks they are excessive and should be out of sight, meet halfway: For only about $100 you could get an ottoman that comes with built-in storage—a neat yet convenient place for those comfort items.

Don’t Overdo It When Mixing Styles

 

Designing and decorating a new home can be stressful. You could hire a professional interior decorator, though the average hourly rate can be as much as $500, according to Houzz. If you’re on a tight budget, though, don’t worry. There’s plenty of accessible (and free) advice online about designing and decorating a new home.

 

The two of you likely have completely different styles, which is why interior designer Sara Costello recommends painting walls a non-color such as white or cream. “With those non-color colors, you can weave in a palette that is masculine and feminine,” Costello said. Then, add pops of color via wall art, accent pillows, and various decorative items. If you have your own décor you are bringing in, incorporate it slowly, and make sure you both agree on it. Taking over the space can quickly lead to an argument. If you will be shopping for new furniture pieces, décor, or even something as simple as new bath towels, be sure you make purchases together so that one individual’s style doesn’t shine through more than the other.

 

Above all else, be kind and understanding toward one another. This is a huge change for both of you, and there will likely be arguments and disagreements. But at the end of the day, you are in it together. Take your time, go slow, talk often, and enjoy the ride!

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Posted by on October 25, 2018 in Organizing

 

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What His/Her Mess Could Be Masking.

 

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He leaves his dirty work clothes in a pile in the living room every day and doesn’t pick it up. She never does the dishes so they are stacked to death in the kitchen sink. You can’t see his nightstand next to the bed but you know its there. She refuses to take all of her makeup off the bathroom counter. Many times all of that is an emotion one is feeling manifesting itself in clutter and mess. Some experts say that the state of a space is a representation of the people insides state of mind. I tend to agree.

I have had clients tell me the reason they don’t clean up is that the others doesn’t either! OR they keep getting on them about the mess, so nothing happens to spite them. Ugh I say nobody wins when that happens.So the simple answer isn’t to just clean it up. You need to clean up the relationship first. Is your relationship lacking? No sex? No affection? Do you constantly pick at each other?

Is it YOU?! Are you feeling inadequate about something? Depression? Sadness? Is it a weight issue? Self esteem? Are you hiding behind the clutter or in it?!

Either way have you just given up?! I invite you to come out of that. You aren’t living your best life. You are doing yourself and your partner a disservice. Before you tackle the dishes in the sink and dirty clothes pile in the living room, start the process of working out your psychological stuff. Try to remind yourself the reason you are in your relationship and get back to a place of kindness and WORK. Go see a therapist, counselor, pastor,,,,

If you are reading this and was wondering why your partner was so messy, this could be a reason why.

 
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Posted by on March 31, 2017 in Organizing

 

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