For the first 40 years of my life, I would put others feelings first above my own. Its’s easy to do. Especially if you are raising kids or helping take care of older people. But even with those circumstances you have to look out for yourself or you are no good to any of them! One thing I have learned is that as long as you are breathing and doing something, change will come knocking at your door. It happens all the time. I ALSO learned the true meaning of the fact that YOU teach people HOW to treat you! It all begins and ends with you basically.
Sometimes it is hard to make a decision if another person or persons will be directly affected by your decision. It can be downright scary. You either know or don’t know how they are going to react. I think knowing how they will react can be scarier than not knowing!! But another lesson I have learned is; If I am not happy or being myself fully, then I am doing myself a disservice. I am hurting myself. And I am teaching others that I don’t value my worth and that my feelings aren’t important. Think about that for a bit!